I think many parents have thoughts about when is the best time to "try again." I know many women who have said they want a small age gap (they said this before giving birth) and then have done a 180 and said that wouldn't work. On the other hand, I have a few friends who want/have small age gaps and I've seen people really judge them for this decision.
My colleague at work has a 1-year-old daughter and her and her husband have decided to start trying again now. She told me this and I didn't think anything of it; actually, I was really excited for her. Today she was talking to me about it in front of another colleague, who wasn't as open-minded? accepting? chilled out? She immediately responded "Again?! So soon.." Although I could tell it wasn't meant to be rude, it definitely came across as OMG WHY ARE YOU HAVING ANOTHER CHILD WHEN YOU JUST HAD ONE.
Nothing else was said after that. I mean I am not judging my other colleague's perspective either. She has no children and neither do I, but maybe from her point of view she couldn't handle it, so she projected her own thoughts and fears onto someone's situation. I don't know, I just find it weird how people have so much to say and when it comes to kids and birth and babies and it usually isn't positive. Not in a delicate way, but in a YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HARD IT WILL BE BE; HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DO THAT?
I just think it's so hard to have a positive conversation about kids and birth nowadays. I admit, as a teacher, I also have moments when there is nothing good to say about a child, but when it comes to wanting one and having one and preparing to try; I would not want to hear a flurry of negative vibes and comments, unless I asked. In my opinion, if you are financially, physically and mainly emotionally able to have a child, then do what you have to do. It's no one else's business otherwise.
Good luck to all of you who are trying, have succeeded and are still on the road.
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